Writer’s block? At a loss for words? You are not alone! Writing a wedding speech may be a daunting task for some (understandably). After all, writing a funny, heartwarming and non-embarrassing speech for many ears to hear can be quite terrifying. Especially if public speaking is not your strongest quality. . . so we hope you find the following advice helpful and encouraging.
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First and foremost, introduce yourself then share your role in the wedding and how you know the couple.
Share how you met the couple. Are a parent or sibling, if so what was the groom/bride like growing up? Are you bestfriends that met in kindergarten or college, or sometime in between? When were you introduced to his/her other half?
Share a great memory you have with the bride/groom/couple. Please be mindful of the audience when choosing your story.
Speak highly of the couple. What do you love about each of them? When did you know they were the perfect pair? What is one of your favorite qualities they possess as a couple? Please, do not, and I repeat do not use backhanded compliments. Their wedding is not the time to joke about things like “I’d never thought I’d see the day she would find someone” or “I can’t believe someone finally agreed to marry him” – it is totally unnecessary and not at all humorous.
Give thanks. If you are in the wedding party, thank the couple. If you are a parent or host, thank the guests for joining the celebration.
Give your best wishes and congratulations to the couple. It is okay if it is a bit cheesy, what matters is saying it with a meaningful heart. For example: “By the night your wedding day will be gone, but your love will last forever. Wishing you all the joy and happiness of married life, congratulations!”
End with a toast and invite everyone to raise a glass!